I have a feeling this post will be cliché-laden. I apologize to those readers who loathe the overused cliché, but it’s all in good fun.
I began this reflective post prior to the New Year as a summary of my experiences so far…but a family crisis prevented me from writing much more than the title. (More about that will come in a later post)
So here goes….
“You’ve come a long way baby”
This journey started out as a venture into the exploration of Dominance and submission. I honestly wanted nothing more than a simple romp in the hay with a man in charge…in control of himself, able to direct and control me.
So let’s reflect on those who were nothing more than one-hit wonders…those not worthy a repeat performance….or worthy of anything other than a mere play-date.
You know, “you never get a second chance to make a first impression.”
“At the end of my rope”
There was Don Knots…the fact that this boy scout was into tying knots more than he was into me, was a sign that I needed to do a better job screening my suitors. But we all have to start somewhere. Guess I started at the bottom, on the bottom, as the bottom…literally.
“An apple a day, keeps the doctor away.”
Then there was the good doctor…”Dr. Pierce”. He gets the award for the most awkward date ever. EVER. But I did enjoy myself on the trip to his little corner of the world and I learned quite a bit about hockey. Yes. You read that correctly. Much of our date was centered around his view of a televised hockey game. And I can now say that I have experienced a piercing. Even if it was with Sheldon’s twin.
“Where there’s smoke, there’s fire.”
There was the over zealous firefighter. Never had a play-date and feel like I dodged a bullet there. I could feel some serious stalker tendencies and I likely would have ended up tied to him for longer than I wanted. With no escape. Nice guy. Just wrong guy.
“Sharp as a marble”
There’s Opie. I know I haven’t named him before now…pure vanilla. Pure waste of time. Not worthy of a test drive around Mayberry. Not the one. Not even close. Not the droid I was looking for. Bless him.
“Missed the boat”
There was the Captain. Such potential there…but not what I was hoping for. Reminds me of a NFL draft pick gone wrong. Had all of the credentials, but just fell short when it was game time. I bet he is his own worst enemy. Another nice guy, but not a Dom at heart.
Now onto the next group…
“Business at hand”
Marky Mark and I had one playdate…however, we found that from a business stance, we were exceptionally compatible. So we channeled our intensity into some creative business ventures. We continue to be friends and I have immense respect for him. And I will admit, we had a great time…but we are far better as business partners.
“Your father wasn’t a glass maker”
There’s Father D. Kind man, but just not Dominant enough for me in the way I need it. He was too controlling for my taste. I think he would fare better with a younger woman who looks to him as a Daddy. I just couldn’t go there. Not with him. I feel certain he will find the right fit. She’s out there…I even helped him build his online dating profile. Wish the best for him.
“Yanking my chain”
There is The Natural/The Seeker. Our time together was his first foray into the lifestyle. A quick-study, he looked to have incredible potential. I had great sessions with him. We seemed to connect on every level, but the conversation fizzled the farther we went. We ran out of things to talk about. Looking back, I now understand why he was limited in communication. He was in another relationship and had not been honest with me. Which is the reason I let him go. No trust…no play.
“Good fences make good neighbors.”
The Goodfella…Henry Hill. Even though we never sealed the deal, we became good friends. And when I turned to him for advice…he never steered me wrong. And he is Ray Liotta’s twin when he wears a business suit.
“Hope springs eternal.”
There’s Hemingway and Billy the Kid. On opposite sides of the age spectrum, these two fellas were gents in the true sense of the word. Both brilliant. Both successful. Both incredibly fun. Both served a great purpose in my life. I realize that they were getting me ready. Preparing me for something bigger. Something more. I was able to explore a deeper friendship with these two and it allowed me to be open for the One. Through my connection with them, I realized that I (the cynic) could open my heart to the right One.
“You live and you learn….”
There’s Ike Turner. I hate to waste space even mentioning his name, but it needs to be written. Ladies (and gents alike) listen the little voice inside your head that tells you something is wrong. Don’t try to rationalize. Don’t overlook red flags. I was lucky. I was able to learn a lesson with minimal damage. There was far more that happened on that Sunday in July than I shared. Maybe one day, I will put it out there, maybe I won’t. But I learned from it. And I am stronger and wiser because of that wrong turn.
“Baptism by fire…”
There is the one I call Sir. The one who helped me understand that what I sought was more than just play time. That what I really wanted had a purpose. He helped me see the spiritual side of D/s, which led me to begin writing this blog. It led me to see things in a different light. We have lost touch over the last few months. Wish him the best. Our limited time together was pivotal in directing me on this path. Peace be to you, Sir.
And there’s the title to this blog. Some of the BDSM purists initially overlooked my page because of the title. I’ve gotten some serious flack for it. But being in marketing, I couldn’t resist the opportunity. I felt like giving the blog this title would open it up to a larger audience….which it has. And I do feel that I have been saved. I am humbled by the number of followers and views I’ve received in this past year. I do hope that my readers have gleaned something from my experiences.
So that’s not 50 first dates, is it? No, not quite 50. But all of these encounters. The good. The bad. The ugly. The hysterically funny. All were leading me to the One. So 50 first dates on 50 Shades of Saved led me to One Amazing Man, my Maestro. I can’t wait to continue chronicling our journey towards the enlightenment we seek together. So I will conclude with this…
“A good man is hard to find.” I am thankful that I found my Maestro.
He found me “in the nick of time.”
And “the times, they are a changing.”
Stay tuned readers…”there’s lots coming down the pike” (hee-hee)
(Here’s a cliché for what is on the way…“Space, the final frontier”)
Happy New Year.