So the post I wrote on the alphabet had me thinking…there are really so many letters and labels out there in the BDSM community. Think about it, the community itself is identified by it’s four letters
Bondage and Discipline/Domination and submission/Sadism and Masochism
Keeping this theme going, the main tenet to the lifestyle are these 3 letters: S S and C
Safe, sane and consensual.
And preferably, DDD
Drug, disease and drama-free.
And for those who practice DD (domestic discipline), the lifestyle is often described as TTWD (this thing we do).
So many letters…
And with the recent BDSM test that circulated around here on WP, I found it interesting…
The categories that I fit into…
Of the M/s, I am the s (no surprise here)
Of the S & M, I am the M (truly no surprise either)
I enjoy the B. I enjoy the D. (not a shocker)
Along with that analysis…
And I am venturing into a 24/7 dynamic with my M, as we are embarking on a TPE relationship.
But we are currently in a LDR.
In addition to these initials, I am a SWF and have been told on some occasion that I also fit into the MILF category, which makes me chuckle. I think that horny bag boy wanted to put more than groceries in my trunk.
So many initials. So many labels. But it doesn’t define who we are. And if I may digress for a quick minute…on the Myers-Briggs personality test, I am an ENFP, for those who keep up with that stuff.
For those who follow astrology…I am a Sagittarius.
For those who follow the Chinese Zodiac, I am a rat, water rat to be precise.
Back to the BDSM labeling… let’s summarize by the letters only:
I am a SWF, who is a s to her M, that is the M in S & M, enjoying a little B & D as she ventures into a 24/7 TPE relationship, that is currently a LDR, until her M in FL is able to relocate to GA.
What the letters don’t say:
She is fierce, strong woman who openly and freely chooses to submit to her partner, who has evolved into her Master. She has been plagued with significant trust issues for most of her life and enjoys being able to let go completely as his devoted slave, giving all control to her M. In doing so, she enjoys that he pushes her limits through various scenarios…and she finds those involving a certain degree of pain and/or bondage, to be the most pleasurable. She is eager for the day when she and her M are able to live freely in a total power exchange relationship, because for now there is 7 hours separating them.
But their day is coming.
And they won’t define themselves by the letters, or the labels. But rather they will define their devotion to each other by:
The unspoken. The subliminal.
The mundane. The profound.
The awe-inspiring. The day-to-day.
The good. The bad.
Because that is what they are to each other…